Paulami Patel was 12-years-old when she got electrocuted while playing with a fishing rod – 11,000 volts of current ran through her right hand. The incident could have cost Paulami her life had the power not gone off for a few microseconds. She has a non-functional right hand and today, even after 50 corrective surgeries and a prosthetic arm, Paulami refuses to give up on life and love.
In conversation with Inclov, Sundeep and Paulami discuss their unique love story, their daily lives and their message for other couples.
How did you guys meet and when did you know she was the ‘One’?
We were from different colleges when we met, but we ended up in the same group of friends and started spending time together. We know each other since 2005. Though, we started off as best friends, we had our share of ups and downs. But over the years, our friendship grew and I was convinced that she is the one I want to spend the rest of my life with. It has been three amazing years of marriage and a total of twelve years of knowing each other.
How is married life for the two of you?
Our married life is crazy! Paulami always has the most number of plans. She is such a travel enthusiast. It’s hard for me to actually keep pace with her plans and outings! I have never felt that we are actually ‘married’– it’s more like a slumber party with my best friend! A normal day would be a routine work life where we meet directly at dinner. But when we both have an off, she usually plans the entire day a week in advance! We would head out for lunch, go shopping or watch a movie and then usually catch up with friends. We try hard to not get absorbed into the dull mundane life.
She’s really crazy! So, she is always planning something or the other. It becomes easy for me! We are quite adventurous and we even went for sky diving together. She coaxed me into doing it and it was the best time I have had ever!
How does it feel being with a differently-abled partner?
It does not feel any different. It’s the same as living with any other spouse. There is absolutely no change. Rather, she completes me! There are so many things that I have learnt from her. She is as normal as any one of us. It’s funny if anyone thinks she is handicapped or differently-abled or less in any manner! Our lives are normal like everyone else. We have never felt anything different or odd. She is so independent that mostly I learn from her. All the things that she finds difficult to do, I help her in doing it on her own. and vice-versa There are so many things I have done because of her which otherwise I wouldn’t have been able to.
Any message for specially-abled people looking for love?
Disability does not affect you in any way. We all have our share of ups and downs but we need to move on. All you need is the right partner with you; who not only uplifts you but also completes you! I have seen Paulami in her most vulnerable moments but the way she handles everything with so much ease is something we all need to learn.
It’s my highest privilege to have her as a partner and the rest of my life is about letting her know that. The universe may have taken her arm, but I’ve seen her wings… and I can’t wait to watch her fly.”
For Paulami, Sundeep is the best partner she could have ever asked for! “I have never felt the need to ask him to help me out for anything. He automatically understands where I need help and just does it. This unspoken communication is magical! He is one of the strongest and loveliest individuals I have ever known. It takes a lot of courage to accept and love someone so unconditionally who is differently abled physically. He has done the unthinkable, according to me and not only motivates me but makes me stronger everyday! I couldn’t have asked for a better partner – I am truly blessed!”