“All our dreams come true if we have the courage to pursue them.”

“Everyday is a celebration in itself for me. From the day I zipped my bag to the day I wore clothes on my own, the first time I locked a door or wrote all the examination papers myself — everything was a celebration! At the beginning, I tried to conceal my scars beneath my long sleeves dresses and dupattas, but over time I learnt to flaunt them. They made me who I am today — fearless and positive.

Today I am 28, have lost my right arm, have had more than 50 operations, have scars all over my body – but I am extremely happy! I live my life to the fullest. There’s nothing that can stop me. I have fought my struggles and will continue to do so.

It’s a usual routine life for me. I wake up and do the morning chores of my house, help my mother-in-law in the kitchen and head to work. I work in the family business and handle the Finance and Administration department along with Client Development role. I then head back home in the night – lend a hand in the household activities and probably step put with my husband Sundeep for catching up with friends! J

My married life has been extremely blissful. I couldn’t have asked for a better partner for the rest of my life. He is aware of all my needs, right from where I need help and where I do not need help, my strengths, my weaknesses. Life has been extremely kind. It’s more like staying with your best friend than husband. He makes it all so easy for me. I never have to ask for anything – things are automatically done for me. There are such wonderful people out there – God has already worked it all out!

I was 12-years-old when I got electrocuted while playing with a fishing rod –11,000 volts of current ran through my right hand. The incident almost cost my life but today, even with 50 corrective surgeries and a prosthetic arm, I am living life to the fullest! The incident happened in 2001 when I was visiting my cousins in Hyderabad and while playing, a rod slipped through the window and while trying to catch it, I caught onto an electrical wire instead. I was rushed to the ICU with severe burns and parts of my flesh missing — after a week, my right hand had to be amputated to prevent gangrene from spreading throughout my body. It took more than six months to get back on my feet. I was only 12 and could barely understand the magnanimity of what had happened!

As soon as I had a prosthetic arm, I started practicing with my right hand. It took immense practice and one month to finally write on my own! That was my biggest achievement amidst my struggles.

After my incident, there were instances when I thought about how to proceed further in life.  Will I be able to lead a normal life? Will I ever get married? Will I ever be able to work? Today I work full time on my business, drive like a boss, skydive, bungee jump and do multiple open water drives and yes I have even married the love of my life.

Struggles are indeed beautiful – they not only teach you so many things but also make you an even better and braver person. I had to develop small tricks everyday to learn to do things independently. For example, I couldn’t even change the TV channel by a remote. So Instead I learnt by myself to use the remote by my feet. So for every small thing, I would switch to tricks that would be convenient for me. For wearing clothes on my own, I started wearing elastic pants / skirts with no buttons or zip.

I have so much more to do… but not before I continue to celebrate every little victory and do my little dance along the way!”

Inclov salutes the brave spirit of Mrs. Paulami Patel and hopes that she continues to scale new heights everyday. If you know someone who has defied the odds and are an inspiration to others, write to us at irfan@inclov.com and we will help spread the word about them

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